Depression and Anxiety Support Forum

*Belle* · Newbie Joined: 12 Jan 2010 Posts: 13

Hi all

I guess Im in a depression slump cause I dont want to go anywhere.

For the last week Ive been feeling sick and headachy, usually this happens before AF and I did get AF but its finished now and I still have headache and also still dont want to go anywhere. Hubby wanted to go out to dinner on Wed night and I threw up so I cancelled and he wants to go out tonight and I still dont want to go im still sick. Im not good company when im sick and my anxiety and OCD gets worse.

He said last night Ive cancelled on him on the last few times. And yes I have but the last 2 times I was sick.

I cant work out if its because I dont want to be with him cause im still angry for him calling me Lazy the other day even though I looked after the kids most of the day while he looked after himself and not the kids aned couldnt spend 1 hour looking after Julia before bed so I could rest. Or is it because Im still sick??? I dont want him to cop the brunt of my grumpiness when sick.

Its all too hard for me at the moment I just want to stay at home. I told him its important if I ask for a day at home with the kids (no going out) I really need it to re-energise because of my mental illness. He really doesnt understand.

AUGHHH

*Kirsten* · Newbie Joined: 16 Jan 2010 Posts: 2 Location: Melbourne

*hugs* some men just don't get it Sad

I am like you before and after AF and its terrible Sad

Hope you feel better soon!
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RainbowCloud · Senior Moderator Joined: 12 Jan 2010 Posts: 80

Hopefully once your feeling better and on top of things a bit more, you and DH can go out for dinner or some fun activity.
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*Belle* · Newbie Joined: 12 Jan 2010 Posts: 13

thanks girls,

We went out for dinner last night with the kids and it wasnt good. He wants to go out today as a family and I just want a break from everyone. His idea of fun is not mine, we are opposites, his idea of going out is walking around the city for 4 hours, not my idea of fun at all, would rather just take the kids around the corner to the park for an hour.

Tigergirl1980 · Newbie Joined: 14 Jan 2010 Posts: 50

I'm sorry you didn't have a good time when you went out. Have you told your hubby that you NEED some time to yourself? Maybe say that atleast once a week you need to head on out by yourself for a few hours so you can recharge and have a break? You know grab a cuppa and read a magazine somewhere? Go to a movie, have a pedicure? Etc? Maybe tell him too, that you're idea of doing something fun together is not the same as his that you like just taking the kids to the park? Maybe you could include a picnic at the park as well?
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